Nuala Murphy is a 35 year old Taurus. She is also mother to her 2 boys, Henry 2 ¾ and Conrad 13 months, whilst simultaneously running her own marketing firm (malone.marketing) and still finds time to explore a new tech idea. Nuala believes that a mother should have the choice to do what she wants, a grounded feminist, her issue is the "Not having the choice", I hear that and ultimately agree with Nuala's sentiment that work, ‘outside of the home’ and ‘inside the home’ both present their own challenges. I really respect her 'honest, no nonsense' answers in this interview, it's refreshing and hearty, a true feminist with a bull like Tauren core and appreciation for the finesse and softness of motherhood and being a woman.
what’s the hardest thing about juggling motherhood with work? Getting the time to spend with my partner.
what’s the most rewarding? Snuggles, laughs, giggles or when they repeat something back to you as a ‘minime’
what drives you? Helping people drives me whether in business OR whether via HappyMummyHappyBaby (MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH AND WELL BEING APP THAT SCREENS FOR ANTENATAL AND POST NATAL DEPRESSION AND ASSOCIATED ANXIETIES) or lean in. I want to help people be the best they can be
how do you manage on the days when you are just so tired you can’t even think about getting out of bed? I spend time at my moms, or I stay in bed.
how do you typically split your time with your work and kids? My kids are in a full time private nursery. Being my own boss means I can help get them out the door and schedule a first meeting for 9.30. This gives my husband and I the space to have stress free mornings.
how do you feel about messages that are out there to mothers? Women get it from all angles, to be successful mothers, have careers and keep trim and great wives keeping great houses. My husband and I don’t fall victim to this nonsense. We work together.
What made you decide to have kids? Didn’t ever think about being a parent, delayed having children for a few years as my husband and I wanted to travel and get used to living together first. We didn’t live together before we were married.
what’s your wellbeing focused around? Balance.
how do you maintain a sense of wellbeing whilst devoting your time to your kids? It is important that I am fulfilled as an individual because a HappyMummy has a Happy Baby. My husband also says that a "HappyWife -HappyLife".
how do you manage your stress? Sometimes I don’t, sometimes I do usually by shopping, going for walks with the dog
what are your dreams? To live a full and healthy life.
how has becoming a mother changed you if at all? It has made me know that I can do anything at all. Because being a mum is both the most rewarding and challenging thing I have ever done.
biggest lesson learnt? A problem shared is a problem halved.
any pearls of wisdom for other new mums or working mums out there? Whether you are working or not, cut yourself some slack. Everyone is a new mom for the first time. Everyone goes through similar challenges, some more than others. Whether we work inside or outside of the home own your own space and be proud of what you are doing.